Robert Joel Benn III


It was a hot clear day with blue skies, scattered fluffy white clouds.

Driving down the 2 lane highway we wound our way to Pickwick  Dam.  It was to be at 2:00pm our final goodbye to Rob. Our last farewell to our brother, son and grandson and friend.  As we zipped along the highway we saw the sign “Welcome to Alabama”

What the ??  We wound our way back from whence we came, making our arrival oh, about an hour late…. SORRY!  everyone..

None the less,  we continued on with our duties… we loaded  up the boats and headed out. The sky turned from bright blue to hazy gray white.. the rain began to fall and pelted upon our shoulders.

What the ??? Where did this rain come from? We are in a drought, no rain for weeks, maybe a month, why did the rain begin right now?  We turned into a cove and beached upon the bank. We huddled up as the skies emptied. “Tears from heaven” we said,  it must be Rob’s little joke on us.. Ha Ha..

Then the rain cleaned the skies turned back blue, we set off again to finish our work. We motored on until we were in the middle of the vast lake surrounded by various greens and browns of the woods we set upon our boats.. “Remember Me” played softly as we bowed our heads for Rob..  then Andrea begun to read
“Dearly beloved family and friends,  we gather here to pay our last respects to Robert and to share our love and grief with one another. We know in our hearts that this is a time of joy. Yet our hearts are still broken.  Because of our great love for him, we will today and in the days to come.  There will always be a big hole in our lives that was once filled with his presence. We cry to day because we miss him, and those tears are evidence of the love we have for him. We mourn greatly because we loved greatly. So, today we come with this tension between our hearts and our minds: in our minds we know that today is a day of joy and a day of celebration for Rob’s life, but in our hearts we are filled with sadness and grief.  We wish that we could have him with us on this earth for many more years. Let us pray~

 God, our Father we thank you for Rob, the years we shared with him, the good we saw in him and the love we received from him. Now, give us the strength and courage to heave him in your care, confidant in your promise of eternal life thru Jesus Christ our Lord, Amen.


Then Mom read,
If tears could build a stairway, and memories a lane, I would walk right up to Heaven and bring you back again. No farewell words were spoken, no time to say goodbye. You were gone before I knew it, and only God knows why. My heart still aches with sadness, and secret tears still flow. What it meant to love you-no one can ever know. But now I know you want me to mourn for you no more; to remember all the happy times, life still has much in store. Since you will never be forgotten, I will pledge to you today- a hollowed place within my heart is where you will always stay.

Eric went on to read some favorite memories shared by family and friends. 


Ashes to ashes dust to dust~

In sure and certain hope of the resurrections to eternal life through our Lord, we comment to Almighty God, our brother Robert, and we commit his body to the ground, earth to earth, ashes to ashes, dust to dust. The Lord bless him and keep him, the Lord make his face shine upon him and be gracious unto him and give him peace.  Amen.


We scattered his ashes into the body of water of Pickwick Lake.

We ended with this prayer ~

We lift our hearts in gratitude for the life of Robert Joel Benn the III, our brother, now gone from among us.  For all that Robert was to those who loved him, and for everything in Robert’s life that reflected your goodness and love. We thank you for the privilege of knowing him and sharing in his life. Help each one to lean upon you as Robert did. May almighty God, the Father, the Son, and the Holy Sprit bless you and keep you now, and forever more. Amen.

We love you forever Rob and we will see you soon.


2 thoughts on “Robert Joel Benn III

  1. Jenn

    I read your Mom’s tribute to Rob with tears in my eyes. What a beautiful tribute to your beloved brother.

    Marie x

  2. so very very sorry for this tragic loss. I will keep this in my heart and prayers this evening, especially for your dear mother, who never expected to outlive any of her children I am certain. While we do not know each other, tears are in my eyes for your family.

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